Some women (maybe a lot of women) get this feeling that if they
don't do something, no one will do it, so therefore they must do it.
For example, "If I don't cook for this conference then nobody will
cook for this conference and then all of the people will not be fed, so
I must cook for this conference even if it means that I miss a good portion
of it." [That, by the way, is a real story and I did actually miss
what I consider to be the best part of the conference because I was in the
I don't know what motivates most (privileged) activists to do what
they do. I know what used to motivate me. It was that feeling
that a better world was possible, and if I didn't make my vital contributions
to the collective 'we', then no one else would. So, while that "if
I don't no one else will" caused me to be complacent and complicit in some
pretty fucked up sexist situations (how the fuck are you gonna shut me
up in a kitchen while you rock out at some conference? fuck you!),
it was also my driving force. It was the reason I commuted 40 minutes
every day from Wilmington, Delaware, to Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, and then
spent another 20 minutes trying to find parking so that I could attend 6
or so hours of meetings just to go home to sleep a few hours and wake up
for school in Delaware the next morning. I was needed, my contributions
were appreciated, so I felt an obligation to be there. And I loved
Then I moved to Washington, DC.
The anarchist elite of Washington, DC, made it very clear to me
that my participation was not needed and it was not welcome. The
fact that I had to fight (unsuccessfully) to get into a pre-action meeting
(to save their sorry asses by giving them a vital piece of info from the
legal office -- the new phone number) screamed at me that I was not welcome.
[All in the name of security culture. Fuck security culture.]
The fact that I was invited to one secret anarchist meeting (which
was secret for no reason other than to stroke the cocks of the people involved)
but not the other one or two other secret anarchist meetings of the same
group tells me that my contribution is obviously not necessary or welcome
(because it was kept a secret from me).
When I speak at a meeting (I should say "spoke", as I am not welcome
at their meetings and therefore don't go) and one of three things always
happens (no one responds and the subject is changed, my point is shot down,
or the meeting is adjourned as soon as my last word is out of my mouth)
then it is obvious that my contributions are neither necessary nor important
When their ignorance and refusal to listen and process what I say
causes me to repeat myself (often over and over until I just quit), it
is very obvious that they do not want to hear and process what I am saying,
and that they would rather that I not speak at all.
And you wonder why there aren't more people in "your" movement.
Why do people only come to one meeting and then never come back?
Probably because they have better things to do that put up with
your not-so-subtle hints that they're morons and have absolutly nothing
to contribute to your white boy revolution.